I have written a lot on the importance of knowing your partner but now I am taking a step back and letting you know that though it is great to get to know how men think, it is more empowering to get to know yourself first. When you know your strengths, weaknesses and triggers you are more empowered to live your best life. When you know yourself you understand what is good for you and what zaps your energy.
Nobody gets to know who they are because they have lived X years on this earth. It doesn’t work like that. You get to know who you are by paying attention to your inner self and listening to yourself.
I was considered weird when I was growing up because I knew what I liked and what I didn’t like. I loved to read and most people I grew up with only touched books if it was for academic reasons. My quest for knowledge made me read everything I could put my hands on. I didn’t care if this was seen as being antisocial because it made me happy. It was more important for me to be happy than to please my friends. So now I know I am a knowledge junkie.
Knowing yourself is a process of knowing who you really are as a human being. What are your values, hopes and dreams ,your beliefs, your personality, your priorities, your moods, your habits, your magnificent body, and your relationships.
Knowing yourself means knowing how you want to live your life. It also means you know the type of person you want to share your life with because you get to understand your limitations, tolerances, fears and passions.
When you don’t know yourself you tend to live a reactionary life. A woman with Feminine Elegance never ever reacts but responds to situations. She takes control and is always in charge of any given situation. It is therefore worth the time investment it takes to get to know yourself better and awaken your Feminine Elegance.
Your Elegant personality
What is your personality like? How do you react to certain circumstances? Who are you really? Do you act like you’re someone else? Who are you among your friends, colleagues and in private?
What are your characteristic traits? Do you understand what makes you act a certain way and ask yourself why you reacted a certain way.
How do you react when you’re having a good day or a bad day? I know when I start lashing out all of a sudden it means I am hungry. If you want to develop an Elegant personality you have to be aware of your actions and reactions and ensure that they bring out your preferred personality.
Know your Core Values
A woman with Feminine Elegance knows her Core values. Most of our Core values are shaped by our society and education.
If one of your Core values is a belief in God or some kind of Spiritual Entity? then maybe it would be easier for you not to have a relationship with a man who is not open to that.
Being open minded is important to me so being with a man who already has set values and not able to see from my point of view would be a no no for me.
What are your values at work and at home? In other aspects of your life which values do you compromise on? Is it honesty or security or flexibility. Do you value financial comfort or fun, learning and wisdom or dedicating your life to serve others. Whatever you can’t compromise on, those are your core values.
When you know these values then you wouldn’t waste your time settling on someone who is not quite what you want.
Your Elegant body
Your body is a mysterious and wonderful machine that serves you so well. You can teach it to do whatever you want it to do. Women spend long periods of time discovering what they don’t like about their body when they could be appreciating what is great about them.
Does this dress make my bum look big, is not a question anyone should ask any poor sod. Stop doing that to yourself!
Have you tried to teach your body to do something or do you just give up saying it can’t do this or try that or the classic I am too old to try that.
The older I get the more my body surprises me. I find when I pay attention to it, it tells me secrets about what is going on inside it. In order to be fully intimate with another human being you need to understand your body deeply. This will help you to enjoy the experience more as you take charge of your own pleasure. Take time to get very intimate with the temple of your soul.
Get to know your dreams
Your dreams come from your soul so they matter greatly. Ignoring your dreams only brings discomfort and unhappiness.
Get familiar with your dreams. Get to know all the things you want to do because I believe these are the messages from your Creator reminding you of your mission.
If you dream of being a photographer then spend time knowing what kind of things you like to photograph, is it children, animals or everything in sight? Do you want to do training to develop your skills or do just want to take family photographs? Do you want to do it professionally or as a hobby?
Take your dreams seriously and glorify them. Whatever you do, don’t hide from your dreams or feel ashamed of them but pay daily attention to them and glorify them.
Connect with your Likes and Dislikes
A lot of people spend time focusing on how unhappy they are about something that happened that they don’t like. This just allows more of what you don’t want to keep appearing in your life. Instead when you see what you don’t like appearing in your life then ask, what is it that I want? Focus on that to change your vibration and more of what you want will start to appear.
Don’t do what everyone else does which is focusing on what is popular and considered cool. It takes guts to define what you like. Spending time doing things that are frustrating and make you unhappy instead of what makes you happy only makes you lose yourself.
Be true to yourself and get to know your likes and dislikes. You have no obligation to please anybody.
Getting to know yourself allows you to tap into the well of happiness beyond your imagination. When you are happy then you’re ready to attract the best person for you.
There is no relationship of greater importance to achieve than the relationship between you, in your physical body, right here and now, and the Soul/Source/God from which you have come. If you tend to that relationship first and foremost, you will then, and only then, have the stable footing to proceed into other relationships. Abraham