What a blocked vacuum cleaner can teach you about your relationships
We’ve all been there before: we’re trying to fix a problem, but we just can’t seem to find the root cause. We try different things, but nothing seems to work. Frustration sets in, and we start to feel like we’re never going to figure it out. But then, suddenly, we have an Aha moment! and everything falls into place.
This is what happened to me last weekend. No matter what I did, the vacuum cleaner wasn’t sucking up anything. I was wasting my energy and time and started to feel frustrated. I had already disconnected the telescopic pipe and the hose and I still couldn’t figure out where the problem was.
The same thing can happen in relationships. We might be struggling with something, feeling blocked by pain or other emotions. But if we can keep trying, eventually we’ll have that Aha moment! when we finally understand what’s going on and what we need to do to move forward. This moment of clarity can be a powerful engine for change, helping us to connect with our partner in a deeper way and create the relationships we really want.
As my sister was helping me unblocking the vacuum cleaner I had an Aha moment! about relationships. When you’re blocked by pain or other life frustrations, you are not able to have a deeper connection with anyone. For my vacuum cleaner, it was a tissue but for you and me, it can be some painful emotion you chose to ignore. You might believe in a myth that if you pretend your emotional pain is not there, it just disappears. The truth is, the emotion gets stuck in your body and if left long enough it will become physical pain. It also becomes the distraction that stops you from connecting deeply with yourself and others. In order for you to be able to deeply connect with yourself and others, your whole emotional body needs to be clear of anger, frustration, angst, fear, and residues of trauma.
When you’re in a relationship, it’s important to focus on your own emotions and needs just as much as you focus on the other person’s. Otherwise, the relationship will be unbalanced and unsatisfying. If you find yourself constantly trying to please the other person and making them happy, but they always seem to turn away from you, it may be because you’re not focusing enough on your own emotions. It’s important to have a strong connection with yourself before you can have a strong connection with someone else. Otherwise, the relationship will be one-sided and unfulfilling..
The ways you can get blocked
We all know what relationships we should have and which ones we shouldn’t. We know what emotions we should feel and which ones we shouldn’t. And yet, we still find ourselves in relationships and feeling emotions that we know aren’t good for us. Why is that?
Part of it has to do with the fact that we’re human and imperfect. We make mistakes and sometimes we get caught up in things before we realize they’re not good for us. But another part of it has to do with the fact that we’re often not being honest with ourselves about what we really want and need. We tell ourselves that we’re okay with something when really we’re not. We pretend to be someone we’re not. And as a result, we end up tolerating things that we know we shouldn’t.
The key is to pay attention to what’s going on inside of us. To be honest with ourselves about our relationships, our emotions, and our needs. To exercise daily to unclog our emotions and connect with our true selves. Only then can we break free from the things that aren’t good for us and move towards the relationships and emotional states that will help us truly thrive.
Practices to clear low energy emotions
We all have unique experiences that shape who we are, and how we react to the world around us. Our relationships, both past and present, play a big role in how we see ourselves and others. If we’ve been hurt or betrayed, it can be difficult to let go of that pain and move on. We may find ourselves holding onto grudges or lashing out in anger when someone tries to get close to us. The key to healing is learning to forgive- both ourselves and others. It’s important to validate our emotions and allow ourselves to feel the pain, rather than block it out. But once we’ve acknowledged the hurt, we can begin to let it go. Forgiveness is a powerful act that can help us to move on from our past and build healthier relationships in the future. By forgiving those who have hurt us, we open up the possibility for love and connection. And when we learn to forgive ourselves, we can finally start giving ourselves the compassion and care that we deserve.
Going back to my vacuum cleaner it is as important for me to unclog it regularly as it is important to unclog negative emotions from my mind and body. So, the question is where am I accumulating things that will block me? By being more present to ourselves, we can develop a better relationship with who we are. This will help us stay on track and make decisions that support the life we want to live. What type of relationship do you want to have with yourself? Are you willing to unplug and check in regularly? If so, start by paying attention to your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. When you understand what is going on inside of you, it becomes easier to take steps towards creating the life you desire.If you’re ready to explore and have your own love breakthrough then book a free Love breakthrough session with me or if you want a free tool that trains your brain to have wonderful relationship then click here.
