In your journey to Creating Love you will discover that love is not all about giving or asking. Next to asking, receiving is one of those things women find difficult to do. The dictionary says, “To receive is to take into one’s possession something offered or delivered.”
These days we have perfected the art of independence to the point that even when we need help, we won’t take it. My dad was great, he taught me how to do a lot of things by myself. I learnt to change a tyre, fix things that broke down, change a light bulb, kill and prepare animals for food and choosing my own path and making my own decisions. His mission was so that I wouldn’t need a man for things like that. From a male perspective that makes a lot of sense because men are taught how to be independent and self reliant.
The worst part about that approach is, it doesn’t work in a relationship like I found out later. My husband wanted the joy of providing for me in fixing things, carrying heavy bags, locking doors and even ensuring that I was covered at night. I took all those gifts as interfering with my system. I wanted him to appreciate how capable I was except it made him feel unloved.
Fortunately I woke up and started to appreciate and enjoy receiving from him. I know I deserve it and just being grateful for it is enough. I now love receiving compliments and praise. I appreciate being admired.
As this is an ongoing expansion, recently I noticed that I felt uncomfortable when I was thanked for doing something good or kind for someone. This was also a refusal to receive. When you give a gift even if you didn’t do it to be praised, you need to allow the person who is receiving from you to give back with their gratitude. It is the ebb and flow of life. I am now happy to receive gratitude from other people because I know it gives them joy and it is opening up their connection with the Universe. They will then receive more and more of the good that life has to offer.
Receiving requires you to open your heart, have faith and allow others to be of service to you. Receiving is also an acceptance of love into your life. Even though it may feel uncomfortable, it is a manifestation of grace.
Receiving from your mate, children, sisters, brothers, colleagues and others is an act of love because you’re allowing them to experience the joy of giving. When you refuse to receive you create blocks of sedentary energy in the Universe which isn’t good for anyone. As a woman if you want to create love then you need to allow yourself to receive all the goodness of the world. This will transform your life in the most joyful manner.