While reading the book Limitless by Jim Kwik recently I came across the HEART acronym. “It’s not too late to make a change.” I’ve always been told that, but the reality is sometimes we need an outside force like HEART acronym (or some other inspiration) in order for us realize what needs done. I hope reading this helps you see your path and gives insight into whether or not creating relationships with others will benefit both parties involved! Let’s explore the acronym together.
H- Healthy. In order to have a fulfilling relationship you need the well being of your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual to be healthy. Some areas might be healthier than others. For example, you might not be physically or spiritually healthy but you can still manage to have a good relationship. At some point though, you will find it important to work on those areas of your life that are not yet as healthy as you want them to be. We’ve all seen people who quit smoking for their loved ones. On the other hand if you or the person you’re relating with is not emotionally healthy, there might not be a second date if the other is emotionally aware.
E- Enduring. A relationship needs to inspire and sustain you during difficult times when you want to quit. When I was newly married and we were having our power struggles, I would want to quit and walk away but I always remembered that most of the time I really enjoyed being with my husband. He was a good man I was having a problem with. I knew how much we cared for each other.
A- Alluring. This means being in a relationship needs to be so exciting, enticing and engaging that you’re pulled towards your partner. If you find yourself avoiding or looking for excuses to stay away or do something else then maybe the relationship is not giving you what you need. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with the person but that they are not right for you. Do you find yourself driving all night just to be with the person?
R- Relevant. It is important to find out why you’re choosing a that person to be in a relationship with you. Do you have the same passion and purpose? Even though opposites attract, you need to be aware of what it is so alluring about the person. In the long run it is those things that are different that will cause tension and disagreements in the future.
T- Truth. Don’t be with a person because someone else wants you to be in a relationship, or the biology clock is ticking. Ensure that you’re being with this person for you. Be sure that you want to be in a relationship with this particular person. If you don’t you won’t want to work on difficulties when they crop up. You will not bother to get the help or support you need because you don’t value it as much or you’re not as committed to the person.
Relationships can give us a lot of pain but they can give us tremendous joy too. Human beings are hard wire for connection and it helps to have a heart filled healthy relationship. If you want to help to improve your own relationship sign up for my free webinar
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