Are you a woman who holds the badge of honor of past hurts? Do you review them regularly to justify holding on to the anger or do you use them…
I have written a lot on the importance of knowing your partner but now I am taking a step back and letting you know that though it is great to get to know how men think, it is more empowering to get to know yourself first. When you know your strengths, weaknesses and triggers you are more empowered to live your best life. When you know yourself you understand what is good for you and what zaps your energy.
Nobody gets to know who they are because they have lived X years on this earth. It doesn’t work like that. You get to know who you are by paying attention to your inner self and listening to yourself.
I was considered weird when I was growing up because I knew what I liked and what I didn’t like. I loved to read and most people I grew up with only touched books if it was for academic reasons. My quest for knowledge made me read everything I could put my hands on. I didn’t care if this was seen as being antisocial because it made me happy. It was more important for me to be happy than to please my friends. So now I know I am a knowledge junkie.
Knowing yourself is a process of knowing who you really are as a human being. What are your values, hopes and dreams ,your beliefs, your personality, your priorities, your moods, your habits, your magnificent body, and your relationships.
Knowing yourself means knowing how you want to live your life. It also means you know the type of person you want to share your life with because you get to understand your limitations, tolerances, fears and passions.
When you don’t know yourself you tend to live a reactionary life. A woman with Feminine Elegance never ever reacts but responds to situations. She takes control and is always in charge of any given situation. It is therefore worth the time investment it takes to get to know yourself better and awaken your Feminine Elegance.
Your Elegant personality
What is your personality like? How do you react to certain circumstances? Who are you really? Do you act like you’re someone else? Who are you among your friends, colleagues and in private?
What are your characteristic traits? Do you understand what makes you act a certain way and ask yourself why you reacted a certain way.
How do you react when you’re having a good day or a bad day? I know when I start lashing out all of a sudden it means I am hungry. If you want to develop an Elegant personality you have to be aware of your actions and reactions and ensure that they bring out your preferred personality.
Know your Core Values
A woman with Feminine Elegance knows her Core values. Most of our Core values are shaped by our society and education.
If one of your Core values is a belief in God or some kind of Spiritual Entity? then maybe it would be easier for you not to have a relationship with a man who is not open to that.
Being open minded is important to me so being with a man who already has set values and not able to see from my point of view would be a no no for me.
What are your values at work and at home? In other aspects of your life which values do you compromise on? Is it honesty or security or flexibility. Do you value financial comfort or fun, learning and wisdom or dedicating your life to serve others. Whatever you can’t compromise on, those are your core values.
When you know these values then you wouldn’t waste your time settling on someone who is not quite what you want.
Your Elegant body
Your body is a mysterious and wonderful machine that serves you so well. You can teach it to do whatever you want it to do. Women spend long periods of time discovering what they don’t like about their body when they could be appreciating what is great about them.
We all get nervous and excited about dating but is there a reason for all that stress? Some people love it and some people don’t. It is worse when the date is with someone you don’t know. The problem is that nobody wants to make a wrong impression and nobody wants to be rejected. People take dating personally, but is it really?